The corresponding letter to this chapter is revelation.
Sh’mu’el Bet 13:1-5 Now it was after this that Avshalom the son of David had a beautiful sister whose name was Tamar, and Amnon the son of David loved her. And Amnon was so frustrated because of his sister Tamar that he made himself ill, for she was a virgin, and it seemed hard to Amnon to do anything to her. But Amnon had a friend whose name was Yonadav, the son of Shim’ah, David's brother; and Yonadav was a very shrewd man. And he said to him, "O son of the king, why are you so depressed morning after morning? Will you not tell me?" Then Amnon said to him, "I am in love with Tamar, the sister of my brother Avshalom." Yonadav then said to him, "Lie down on your bed and pretend to be ill; when your father comes to see you, say to him, 'Please let my sister Tamar come and give me some food to eat, and let her prepare the food in my sight, that I may see it and eat from her hand.'"
Tamar means, “palm tree”. Unmarried daughters were kept in seclusion from men. Because she was Amnon’s half sister she would have been see by him. This girl would have been very sheltered and perhaps more trusting because of it.
Yonadav was David’s nephew and cousin to Amnon and Tamar. His evil counsel led to the rape of Tamar.
Sh’mu’el Bet 13:6-13 So Amnon lay down and pretended to be ill; when the king came to see him, Amnon said to the king, "Please let my sister Tamar come and make me a couple of cakes in my sight, that I may eat from her hand." Then David sent to the house for Tamar, saying, "Go now to your brother Amnon's house, and prepare food for him." So Tamar went to her brother Amnon's house, and he was lying down. And she took dough, kneaded it, made cakes in his sight, and baked the cakes. And she took the pan and dished them out before him, but he refused to eat. And Amnon said, "Have everyone go out from me." So everyone went out from him. Then Amnon said to Tamar, "Bring the food into the bedroom, that I may eat from your hand." So Tamar took the cakes which she had made and brought them into the bedroom to her brother Amnon. When she brought them to him to eat, he took hold of her and said to her, "Come, lie with me, my sister." But she answered him, "No, my brother, do not violate me, for such a thing is not done in Israel; do not do this disgraceful thing! "As for me, where could I get rid of my reproach? And as for you, you will be like one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, please speak to the king, for he will not withhold me from you."
Amnon should have known that this type of relationship was forbidden by G-d.
Vayikra (Leviticus) 18:11 'The nakedness of your father's wife's daughter, born to your father, she is your sister, you shall not uncover her nakedness.
Do you think David’s taking of Bat-Sheva regardless of the wrong was a bad example that may have left an impression even brought down on his sons? She only said, “talk to the king” probably to get away from him.
Sh’mu’el Bet 13:14-16 However, he would not listen to her; since he was stronger than she, he violated her and lay with her. Then Amnon hated her with a very great hatred; for the hatred with which he hated her was greater than the love with which he had loved her. And Amnon said to her, "Get up, go away!" But she said to him, "No, because this wrong in sending me away is greater than the other that you have done to me!" Yet he would not listen to her.
This act shows that Amnon love for Tamar was only physical lust and very shallow. He did not really have any truly deep feeling for her at all. When he looked at her now it probably only reminded him of his evil deed.
Sh’mu’el Bet 13:17-21 Then he called his young man who attended him and said, "Now throw this woman out of my presence, and lock the door behind her." Now she had on a long-sleeved garment; for in this manner the virgin daughters of the king dressed themselves in robes. Then his attendant took her out and locked the door behind her. And Tamar put ashes on her head, and tore her long-sleeved garment which was on her; and she put her hand on her head and went away, crying aloud as she went. Then Avshalom her brother said to her, "Has Amnon your brother been with you? But now keep silent, my sister, he is your brother; do not take this matter to heart." So Tamar remained and was desolate in her brother Avshalom's house. Now when King David heard of all these matters, he was very angry.
This manner the virgin daughters of the king dressed themselves in robes – by tearing her robe she was saying in a non-verbal way that she was violated and no longer a virgin.
David may have been angry but he did not do anything. He did not discipline Amnon like a father should. If he had what follows may not have happened.
Avshalom was her full brother and her protector. She remained in his household and under his protection.
Sh’mu’el Bet 13:22-30 But Avshalom did not speak to Amnon either good or bad; for Avshalom hated Amnon because he had violated his sister Tamar. Now it came about after two full years that Avshalom had sheepshearers in Baal-hazor, which is near Efrayim, and Avshalom invited all the king's sons. And Avshalom came to the king and said, "Look now, your servant has sheepshearers; please let the king and his servants go with your servant." But the king said to Avshalom, "No, my son, we should not all go, lest we be burdensome to you." Although he urged him, he would not go, but blessed him. Then Avshalom said, "If not, please let my brother Amnon go with us." And the king said to him," Why should he go with you? " But when Avshalom urged him, he let Amnon and all the king's sons go with him. And Avshalom commanded his servants, saying, "See now, when Amnon's heart is merry with wine, and when I say to you, 'Strike Amnon,' then put him to death. Do not fear; have not I myself commanded you? Be courageous and be valiant." And the servants of Avshalom did to Amnon just as Avshalom had commanded. Then all the king's sons arose and each mounted his mule and fled. Now it was while they were on the way that the report came to David, saying, "Avshalom has struck down all the king's sons, and not one of them is left."
Avshalom began to plot his revenge. It tool 2 years, until the time was right to kill his brother.
This revelation must have certainly been hard for David to take. Fortunately only one son had been murdered and not all of his sons.
Just as David used his servants to kill Uriyah so Avshalom ordered his servants to kill Amnon.
Sh’mu’el Bet 13:31-33 Then the king arose, tore his clothes and lay on the ground; and all his servants were standing by with clothes torn. And Yonadav, the son of Shim’ah, David's brother, responded, "Do not let my lord suppose they have put to death all the young men, the king's sons, for Amnon alone is dead; because by the intent of Avshalom this has been determined since the day that he violated his sister Tamar. Now therefore, do not let my lord the king take the report to heart, namely, 'all the king's sons are dead,' for only Amnon is dead."
Avshalom took the law into his own hands because his father never did.
Vayikra (Leviticus) 18:29 'For whoever does any of these abominations, those persons who do so shall be cut off from among their people.
be cut off – this is the death penalty.
Sh’mu’el Bet 13:34-39 Now Avshalom had fled. And the young man who was the watchman raised his eyes and looked, and look, many people were coming from the road behind him by the side of the mountain. And Yonadav said to the king, "Look, the king's sons have come; according to your servant's word, so it happened." And it came about as soon as he had finished speaking, that look, the king's sons came and lifted their voices and wept; and also the king and all his servants wept very bitterly. Now Avshalom fled and went to Talmai the son of Ammihud, the king of G’shur. And David mourned for his son every day. So Avshalom had fled and gone to G’shur, and was there three years. And the heart of King David longed to go out to Avshalom; for he was comforted concerning Amnon, since he was dead.
The son became much like David. He had to hide away.