The corresponding letter to this chapter is Nun – faithfulness; soul; downfall and rising again.
Sh’mu’el Bet 14:1-3 Now Joav the son of Tz’ruyah perceived that the king's heart was inclined toward Avshalom. So Joav sent to T’koa and brought a wise woman from there and said to her, "Please pretend to be a mourner, and put on mourning garments now, and do not anoint yourself with oil, but be like a woman who has been mourning for the dead many days; then go to the king and speak to him in this manner. "So Joav put the words in her mouth.
Joav must have been taking notes whenever Natan the prophet visited David because he tries having someone deliver a similar message to David regarding Avshalom.
Sh’mu’el Bet 14:4-7 Now when the woman of T’koa spoke to the king, she fell on her face to the ground and prostrated herself and said, "Help, O king." And the king said to her, "What is your trouble?" And she answered, "Truly I am a widow, for my husband is dead. And your maidservant had two sons, but the two of them struggled together in the field, and there was no one to separate them, so one struck the other and killed him. Now look, the whole family has risen against your maidservant, and they say, 'Hand over the one who struck his brother, that we may put him to death for the life of his brother whom he killed, and destroy the heir also.' Thus they will extinguish my coal which is left, so as to leave my husband neither name nor remnant on the face of the earth."
She tells a story of one son killing another one. If the death penalty were carried out as the law required, she would be left without an heir. The law also took pains to avoid leaving someone with out an heir.
Sh’mot (Exodus) 21:12 "He who strikes a man so that he dies shall surely be put to death.
Deuteronomy 25:5-10 "When brothers live together and one of them dies and has no son, the wife of the deceased shall not be married outside the family to a strange man. Her husband's brother shall go in to her and take her to himself as wife and perform the duty of a husband's brother to her. And it shall be that the first-born whom she bears shall assume the name of his dead brother, that his name may not be blotted out from Israel. But if the man does not desire to take his brother's wife, then his brother's wife shall go up to the gate to the elders and say, 'My husband's brother refuses to establish a name for his brother in Israel; he is not willing to perform the duty of a husband's brother to me.' "Then the elders of his city shall summon him and speak to him. And if he persists and says, 'I do not desire to take her,' then his brother's wife shall come to him in the sight of the elders, and pull his sandal off his foot and spit in his face; and she shall declare,' Thus it is done to the man who does not build up his brother's house.' "And in Israel his name shall be called, 'The house of him whose sandal is removed.'
Sh’mu’el Bet 14:8-10 Then the king said to the woman, "Go to your house, and I will give orders concerning you." And the woman of T’koa said to the king, "O my lord, the king, the iniquity is on me and my father's house, but the king and his throne are guiltless." So the king said, "Whoever speaks to you, bring him to me, and he will not touch you anymore."
The iniquity is on me – she does not want to see the king guilty in pardoning her son.
Sh’mu’el Bet 14:11-16 Then she said, "Please let the king remember the L-RD your G-d, so that the avenger of blood may not continue to destroy, lest they destroy my son." And he said, "As the L-RD lives, not one hair of your son shall fall to the ground." Then the woman said, "Please let your maidservant speak a word to my lord the king." And he said, "Speak." And the woman said, "Why then have you planned such a thing against the people of G-d? For in speaking this word the king is as one who is guilty, in that the king does not bring back his banished one. For we shall surely die and are like water spilled on the ground which cannot be gathered up again. Yet G-d does not take away life, but plans ways so that the banished one may not be cast out from him. Now the reason I have come to speak this word to my lord the king is because the people have made me afraid; so your maidservant said, 'Let me now speak to the king, perhaps the king will perform the request of his maidservant. 'For the king will hear and deliver his maidservant from the hand of the man who would destroy both me and my son from the inheritance of G-d.' "Then your maidservant said, 'Please let the word of my lord the king be comforting, for as the angel of G-d, so is my lord the king to discern good and evil. And may the L-RD your G-d be with you.'"
The avenger of blood – this is a reference to the nearest relative to the person killed who would want revenge.
Sh’mu’el Bet 14:18-23 Then the king answered and said to the woman, "Please do not hide anything from me that I am about to ask you." And the woman said, "Let my lord the king please speak." So the king said, "Is the hand of Joav with you in all this?" And the woman answered and said, "As your soul lives, my lord the king, no one can turn to the right or to the left from anything that my lord the king has spoken. Indeed, it was your servant Joav who commanded me, and it was he who put all these words in the mouth of your maidservant; in order to change the appearance of things your servant Joav has done this thing. But my lord is wise, like the wisdom of the angel of G-d, to know all that is in the earth. " Then the king said to Joav, "Look now, I will surely do this thing; go therefore, bring back the young man Avshalom." And Joav fell on his face to the ground, prostrated himself and blessed the king; then Joav said, "Today your servant knows that I have found favor in your sight, O my lord, the king, in that the king has performed the request of his servant." So Joav arose and went to Geshur, and brought Avshalom to Yerushalayim.
David catches on that Joav is behind this woman’s visit and agrees to allow Avshalom to return to Yerushalayim.
After Avshalom’s downfall He becomes popular with the people because he was the only one who was willing to punish Amnon.
Sh’mu’el Bet 14:24 However the king said, "Let him turn to his own house, and let him not see my face." So Avshalom turned to his own house and did not see the king's face.
This seems to be a half-hearted forgiveness.
Sh’mu’el Bet 14:25-28 Now in all Israel was no one as handsome as Avshalom, so highly praised; from the sole of his foot to the crown of his head there was no defect in him. And when he cut the hair of his head (and it was at the end of every year that he cut it, for it was heavy on him so he cut it), he weighed the hair of his head at 200 shekels by the king's weight. And to Avshalom there were born three sons, and one daughter whose name was Tamar; she was a woman of beautiful appearance. Now Avshalom lived two full years in Yerushalayim, and did not see the king's face. Then Avshalom sent for Joav, to send him to the king, but he would not come to him. So he sent again a second time, but he would not come. When we forgive we should forgive with our whole heart. David had forgotten how he himself had been totally forgiven for his wrongs.
Just as Sha’ul was handsome and captured the attention of the crowd, so Avshalom did the same thing. He became popular in the eyes of the Israelites.
He weighed the hair of his head at 200 shekels – this was about 5 pounds.
Mark 11:25-26"And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone; so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your transgressions. ["But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father who is in heaven forgive your transgressions."]
Sh’mu’el Bet 14:30-32 Therefore he said to his servants, "See, Joav's field is next to mine, and he has barley there; go and set it on fire." So Avshalom's servants set the field on fire. Then Joav arose, came to Avshalom at his house and said to him, "Why have your servants set my field on fire?" And Avshalom answered Joav, "Look, I sent for you, saying, 'Come here, that I may send you to the king, to say," Why have I come from Geshur? It would be better for me still to be there. "'Now therefore, let me see the king's face; and if there is iniquity in me, let him put me to death."
Avshalom was not repentant and humble wanting to be reinstated into the king’s family; he was ruthless in destroying Joav’s field in order to get him to deliver a message, an ultimatum really to the king. Accept me or kill me.
Sh’mu’el Bet 14:33 So when Joav came to the king and told him, he called for Avshalom. Thus he came to the king and prostrated himself on his face to the ground before the king, and the king kissed Avshalom.
Avshalom finally finds favor again with David.