The corresponding letter to this chapter is Gimel – loving-kindness; culmination, as in planting a seed and caring for it until it matures.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:1 Now there was a long war between the house of Sha’ul and the house of David; and David grew steadily stronger, but the house of Sha’ul grew weaker continually.
There was a gradual transfer of power from Ish-Boshet. Sha’ul’s son, to David.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:2-5 Sons were born to David at Hevron: his first-born was Amnon, by Achino’am from Yizre’el; and his second, Kil’av, by Avigail the widow of Naval from Karmel; and the third, Avshalom the son of Ma’akhah, the daughter of Talmai, king of Geshur; and the fourth, Adonjyah the son of Haggit; and the fifth, Sh’fatyah the son of Avital; and the sixth, Yitre’am, by David's wife ‘Eglah. These were born to David at Hevron.
David has children and they mature and grow. So far we see he has six sons, to six different women.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:6-11 And it came about while there was war between the house of Sha’ul and the house of David that Avner was making himself strong in the house of Sha’ul. Now Sha’ul had a concubine whose name was Ritzpah, the daughter of Ayah; and Ish-Boshet said to Avner, "Why have you gone in to my father's concubine?" Then Avner was very angry over the words of Ish-Boshet and said, "Am I a dog's head that belongs to Y’hudah? Today I show kindness to the house of Sha’ul your father, to his brothers and to his friends, and have not delivered you into the hands of David; and yet today you charge me with a guilt concerning the woman. May G-d do so to Avner, and more also, if as the L-RD has sworn to David, I do not accomplish this for him, to transfer the kingdom from the house of Sha’ul, and to establish the throne of David over Israel and over Y’hudah, from Dan even to Beersheba. " And he could no longer answer Avner a word, because he was afraid of him.
Avner takes Sha’ul concubine and shows no respect to Ish-Boshet when questioned. He bullies him to the point that Ish-Boshet is afraid of him.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:12-16 Then Avner sent messengers to David in his place, saying, "Whose is the land? Make your covenant with me, and look, my hand shall be with you to bring all Israel over to you." And he said, "Good! I will make a covenant with you, but I demand one thing of you, namely, you shall not see my face unless you first bring Mikhal, Sha’ul's daughter, when you come to see me." So David sent messengers to Ish-Boshet, Sha’ul's son, saying, "Give me my wife Mikhal, to whom I was betrothed for a hundred foreskins of the Philistines." And Ish-Boshet sent and took her from her husband, from Paltiel the son of Laish. But her husband went with her, weeping as he went, and followed her as far as Bahurim. Then Avner said to him, "Go, return." So he returned.
Mikhal was David’s first wife and she was the daughter of Sha’ul. When David was on the run from Sh’aul, she was given to another man to be his wife.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:17-18 Now Avner had consultation with the elders of Israel, saying, "In times past you were seeking for David to be king over you. Now then, do it! For the L-RD has spoken of David, saying, 'By the hand of My servant David I will save My people Israel from the hand of the Philistines and from the hand of all their enemies.'"
Avner started to show loving kindness to David because he realizes it is the will of the L-rd. David shows loving kindness in return to Avner.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:19-20 And Avner also spoke in the hearing of Binyamin; and in addition Avner went to speak in the hearing of David in Hevron all that seemed good to Israel and to the whole house of Binyamin. Then Avner and twenty men with him came to David at Hevron. And David made a feast for Avner and the men who were with him.
This could be Avner’s “last supper” you might say for he is also a type of Yeshua HaMashiach.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:21 And Avner said to David, "Let me arise and go, and gather all Israel to my lord the king that they may make a covenant with you, and that you may be king over all that your soul desires." So David sent Avner away, and he went in peace.
A peace treaty of sorts has been agreed upon between David and Avner.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:22-25 And look, the servants of David and Yo’av came from a raid and brought much spoil with them; but Avner was not with David in Hevron, for he had sent him away, and he had gone in peace. When Yo’av and all the army that was with him arrived, they told Yo’av, saying, "Avner the son of Ner came to the king, and he has sent him away, and he has gone in peace." Then Yo’av came to the king and said, "What have you done? Look, Avner came to you; why then have you sent him away and he is already gone? "You know Avner the son of Ner, that he came to deceive you and to learn of your going out and coming in, and to find out all that you are doing."
Yo’av accuses Avner of deception when he himself deceives David behind his back by having him brought back. Some also accused Yeshua of things he did not do. They sought to find him to kill him too.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:26-27 When Yo’av came out from David, he sent messengers after Avner, and they brought him back from the well of Sirah; but David did not know it. So when Avner returned to Hevron, Yo’av took him aside into the middle of the gate to speak with him privately, and there he struck him in the belly so that he died on account of the blood of Asahel his brother.
They took revenge into their own hands by murdering Avner. He was pierced in the side not unlike Yeshua HaMashiach.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:28-34 And afterward when David heard it, he said, "I and my kingdom are innocent before the L-RD forever of the blood of Avner the son of Ner. May it fall on the head of Yo’av and on all his father's house; and may there not fail from the house of Yo’av one who has a discharge, or who is a leper, or who takes hold of a distaff, or who falls by the sword, or who lacks bread." So Yo’av and Avishai his brother killed Avner because he had put their brother Asah’el to death in the battle at Giv’on. Then David said to Yo’av and to all the people who were with him, "Tear your clothes and gird on sackcloth and lament before Avner." And King David walked behind the bier. Thus they buried Avner in Hevron; and the king lifted up his voice and wept at the grave of Avner, and all the people wept. And the king chanted a lament for Avner and said, "Should Avner die as a fool dies? "Your hands were not bound, your feet were not tied- you were murdered-The victim of a wicked plot." And all the people wept again for him.
He was undeserving of this kind of death just as Yeshua HaMashiach was undeserving and innocent and like Avner died before wicked men.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:35-36 Then all the people came to persuade David to eat bread while it was still day; but David vowed, saying, "May G-d do so to me, and more also, if I taste bread or anything else before the sun goes down." Now all the people took note of it, and it pleased them, just as everything the king did pleased all the people.
Avner’s death brought the people over to David’s camp.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:37-38 So all the people and all Israel understood that day that it had not been the will of the king to put Avner the son of Ner to death. Then the king said to his servants, "Do you not know that a prince and a great man has fallen this day in Israel?
David considered a great man who died a death he did not deserve.
Sh’mu’el Bet 3:39 "And I am weak today, though anointed king; and these men the sons of Tz’ruyah are too difficult for me. May the L-RD repay the evildoer according to his evil."
David was still weak as a king. Yo’av and Abishai, the sons of Tz’ruyah, were too strong at the moment and David needed to be careful in his dealings with them.